Relationships by Design – Part 3
He said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten of the tree of which I commanded you not to eat?” The man said, “The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.” Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this that you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”
The awareness of their inadequacies led to two destructive patterns that hinder intimacy.
- Self Protection
- Self Gratification
Self protection: I cannot admit I have inadequacies, or that I am the source/cause of problems in my relationships. If something is wrong, it can’t be me.
Self gratification: I recognize my inadequacies and I use others in an attempt to make myself happy. I’ll do whatever it takes to make YOU, make ME happy.
It is easy to blame others when things are broken. The hard part is recognizing the part you played in it all.
We must seek to understand before we seek to be understood
The key to communication is listening.
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